How do I judge thee? Let me count the ways. I see wrinkles and some laugh lines. Wait, your style has gone astray. A little chub, a little drab, too many freckles dot your nose. Some grays are showing through that dye job. You are tired and it shows.
You are too busy and too scattered. When is the last time you worked out? Overworked, underappreciated. Oh, I wouldn’t eat that amount. You’re unkempt, trying too hard, maybe today is not your day. I’m sure there was a better outfit choice this morning. Um, you shouldn’t wear stripes that way.
I would have dressed up or dressed down. Painted my cheeks a different pink. I surely would have pulled my hair up. It would look better, don’t you think? Your face is too long, eyes too big and shoulders wide. Hide your ears, quiet your voice, stuff all your fears inside. Wear something different, that look is lame. Same favorite sweater? Lacking grace, what a shame.
Sigh. Maybe I have made myself feel better by criticizing who you are. But, it will be brief and very fleeting as selfish thoughts splinter my heart. It will take a bit of warming, a bit of letting down my guard, before I can look much deeper and see who you really are.
What I have not noticed is that you’re so unique. Creative and amazing, you are truly at your peak. I hadn’t seen it all before. But, by looking a little deeper, I can appreciate you so much more.
Girl, yes you are too tired. Can I help you out with that? I understand when days feel short and life’s demands have knocked you flat.
Girl, you are so busy. I can see you focused in. You’re climbing the ladder of success, looking for a total win.
Girl, I commend your effort, giving life all you’ve got. You show tenacity and spirit. From you, I could learn a lot.
Girl, you could be more recognized, but it’s not approval that you seek. You’re happy if the kids are fed and you’ve kept up another week.
Girl, I do love that sweater, those boots and that smile. But what I have learned today is worth cannot be measured by a sense of style.
My friend, great job on all you’ve accomplished and for letting your light shine. I hope my passion can mimic yours and someday be just as fine.
Rachel Asks: Have we ever found ourselves on the receiving end of unkind words and criticism? It makes us feel as if life is a performance sport where we are judged constantly based on our ability to perform at someone else’s standard. Conversely, have we found ourselves on the the giving end of such harsh words and thoughts? Where we have deemed someone’s worth based off our personal opinion of them? We can do much better as women! We can do much better as moms, sisters and friends. How can you show love today? How can you reverse this trend?